random bump-in
Posted on Mon, January 25 2010 at 6:11 pm
i ran into jay and margaret at choi’s today. i was going to have lunch with will and oh, and i got there early, and when i arrived, margaret waved at me. it was good seeing them; i don’t see them enough at all, so i sat down and a had a nice short chat with them before will and oh got there.
well, this wednesday, we’re having another GNO (guy’s night out). jay will be there, so i’ll get another highly-anticipated dose of him. GNO’s are always fun for me, but i suspect that the married guys enjoy it more. they probably won’t admit it, but they enjoy the heightened testosterone level and a chance to be just another one of the guys. i don’t know where we’re going yet, though. hopefully it won’t be too expensive, like our trip to tanto a few months ago. ($50+ per person!)
i have a 9am meeting tomorrow. a conference call with some country on the other side of the atlantic ocean. ugh. i better go to sleep earlier tonight, which is totally possible because i have nothing on tv to watch besides _the bachelor_. jimmy and sabrina are getting back from cancun tonight, so i am trying to track them down and see if they want to watch with me. sabrina is my _bachelor_ buddy.
oh, another thing about choi’s; after eating lunch, when i got back to the office, i felt a bit sick, so i went to the bathroom and puked. no, i’m not bulimic, but it was sort of a weird thing. i didn’t think i ate too much or anything like that. but i just felt a little “off.” i hope it’s not food poisoning. most of what came out was the miso soup and the pan chan, i.e. very little of the pork that i ate.
i am still hurting for brett favre. to think that your last pass was an interception, and to have to live with that for the rest of your life. ouch. he could have just run a few yards, ducked out of bounds, and let longwell (was that his name?) kick a field goal to win the game and go to the super bowl. *sigh* poor, poor favre. i really wanted to see him in the big game.
one of the software engineers came back from a business trip to osaka. i asked him if he went to ebisu-bashi, more affectionately known as hikkake-bashi, or “pick-up bridge.” this place is ridiculous. basically, guys go to the bridge and just grab girls that they want to hook up with. they are totally unafraid and unashamed. crazy! the engineer said he didn’t go there, but he was approached by some shady-looking men while walking around certain districts of osaka. i wonder if they were gay pick-up artists.
i really feel a lot healthier when i’m at work. i drink a LOT of water. i pee like every hour. kidney stones, be gone!
one couple that i know in LA is going to the grammys. (is it grammy’s or grammys?) anyways, the husband is in the japanese jazz band hiroshima, and they’re nominated for an award. they’re in the non-televised awards ceremony, but still, they get to go down the red carpet and all that. how exciting! the wife is designing her own dress. i keep telling her that she might be asked who made it, so she needs to come up with a cool designer name just in case she becomes famous.
sometime’s been on my mind lately. it’s fogging up my brain. it makes me want to accelerate time to see what’s going to happen. you know, do a mini-rip van winkle and go to the future already. sometimes i really hate how slowly life is going, and i want to see how it turns out. waiting is such a painful, arduous process.
have you ever had love goggles? you know, where your affection for someone makes that person look better, physically? maybe you married people are experiencing that right now. so what happens when you’re fighting, and your affection goes away for that short moment? do they become ugly to you? is that why people say, “i can’t look at you right now?”
i think i am highly susceptible to love goggles. i look or think back to some girls i have liked before, and i often find myself thinking, “what the hell did i see in her?” clearly, the affection is gone for those people, so what’s left is just a blank slate of pure empirical physical looks. and often, that’s just not enough for me. i need the emotions. and that scares the crap out of me. what happens when the emotions temporarily drain out? will i find them unattractive? will i be able to get the attraction back if that happens? what if i get stuck on the negative side?
thus, one of the keys to maintaining a relationship is keeping those love goggles on. good communication and understanding, creating and maintaining that bond, passion and having sex (a key thing), building a life and a future together, etc. all of that is very important.
_up in the air_ is still weighing on my mind. “everybody needs a co-pilot.” or something like that. that’s what george clooney’s character tells another person. i think we’re lucky if we find a good person to spend our life with. i’m definitely looking for one. it’s taking a long time, and i for sure as hell have high standards (perhaps too high), but i still have hope.
shit, i have to pee again.
>> what happens when the emotions temporarily drain out? will i find them unattractive? will i be able to get the attraction back if that happens? what if i get stuck on the negative side?
That’s usually the make or break of a relationship in the long term. And isn’t that the point of love? If you love them enough and you’re unhappy with them (temporarily), there’s still enough love to keep you there with them, wanting them. They might do something ugly, but you can’t help but love them.
I recently had that break of emotion with someone and it made me not even want to be friends with him anymore. I think he’s pathetic. It makes me sad.
Also, your blog is still hilarious to me (mostly the closing line to this post)